What we tell ourselves
There is a voice in our heads that talks to us constantly. It’s our program running in the background of our lives. It helps us make decisions, encourages us, protects us - it is the chatter that is constantly going. Even though that voice can seem like an incessant hum, it is at the forefront of guiding our lives, especially what we think of ourselves.
Considering why internet scammers work, especially romance scammers, the mind wants to believe them over logic and reasoning. Our mind has beliefs and can be logical, but when we want something and tell ourselves this is the way it is, it will be difficult because we’re sold ourselves a fantasy and who wants to let the fantasy go?
The Subconscious Mind has an important job - it stores core values, memories, and beliefs that drive our lives. Programming from all kinds of situations has established our norms. Most of the time, our subconscious tells us how we feel or believe something, and we take action from there. This is why it’s crucial to work with the subconscious mind if we are wanting to make a change.
This is why paying attention to what we’re telling ourselves is so important. We are used to this inner voice saying things to us and us following. However, what would happen if we LISTENED to the voice?
I noticed my voice wasn’t always kind to me. Sometimes I’d put myself down for making a mistake; sometimes, that voice let me know how dumb I was. I hear my inner voice speak from fear or despair, discouraging me from trying something new. Part of the job of the mind is to protect. If there is a threat, the mind becomes fearful and wants to create safety as soon as possible, making the mind say things like “Don’t do that!” and “It’s not going to go well. You can’t do it.”
I realized I had to combat the thoughts in my mind.
If I heard, “That was a bonehead move.”
I’d say, “No, it was a mistake, and you’re human. You can make mistakes. It’s okay.”
That didn’t necessarily stop the thoughts, but the other voice came in quicker as I practiced. It was the gentle words overriding the negative thoughts.
I was surprised at how many negative thoughts I was having. Once I connected the subconscious mind and my actions, I had to work with that voice to make a new conscious decision. Positively written affirmations work well because the brain wants to be positive, not negative. The mind also holds on to the positive in a much better way than negative phrasing because you can see the chain reaction of the actions you take,
Here are some tips for changing the subconscious mind and voice:
When you hear negative words, bring in that gentle voice to counter.
If you hear positive comments, celebrate with them and add on to the positive.
Reading positive affirmations can also help. Some visual people have a much better time seeing positive affirmations than just saying them. Write them down and read them at least twice a day.
Don’t limit yourself to small thoughts. Think big. If you need a visual, you can find them in magazines and books or even create something through AI.
Remember, you’re changing subconscious thoughts; it may take more than one try. Keep going! Consistency is key in making change.
Cut yourself slack if you are struggling. Don’t worry about everything and everyone being positive and perfect all the time. We’re human, and we’re going to have days. It’s okay
Remember, you can work with your thoughts to encourage, uplift, and celebrate your success. It takes some practice, but you can change very quickly. Let me know how you do!